Additionally, as you’ve probably gleaned from this post, there’s a difference between being aroused by something and actually wanting to do it. Everyone who has fantasies is likely keenly aware that you don’t necessarily want to act out every fantasy that floats through your brain. Sometimes it’s just there for your enjoyment or for play in a safe environment. I’m not even going to get into the idea of wanting to do something but being physically incapable of doing so, because this post is long enough, but look forward to that in the future.
Kink is emotional and it engages your brain. It involves fantasy, connection, and trust, all things that a lot of ace people are into. As a kinky ace person, there’s plenty of kinks as concepts that are going to flip my switch, but only a few that I want to (or can) engage with physically. Engaging with kink has improved my mental well-being and my physical relationship with my partner, and given me a better understanding of myself.